From Scandoval to Trayvis, 2023 is a dramatic year for love. As Mercury goes retrograde for the final time on December 13, we should expect more twists and turns until it goes direct on January 1, 2024. Mercury retrograde will definitely affect your life, including dating, relationships, and living. gender.
About three to four times a year, Mercury enters a retrograde phase, which means its orbit appears to be spinning backwards from Earth's vantage point. Mercury is associated with daily operations - thinking, communication, ideas and travel in astrology. Whenever Mercury goes retrograde, its functions are thrown out of balance. (This is true for all planets.) When it comes to romance, however, Mercury retrograde can exacerbate arguments, misunderstandings, and inconsistent desires between lovers.
"During the current Mercury retrograde period, ego conflict will be at the center of your romance due to the influences of Sagittarius and Capricorn," says astrologer Lauren Ash. “If your visions don’t align, it creates a power struggle.”
It’s time to clarify your values and ambitions. If a relationship isn't leading you in these directions, then maybe it's time to put it behind you.
Regarding the end-of-year ruckus, December's Mercury retrograde is helping us clarify our values and aspirations and let go of relationships that don't move us toward those goals, "which can lead to power struggles if your visions don't align," Ashe explains road.
Here's how Mercury retrograde will affect your sign from December 2023 to January 2024, and how to use the planet's chaotic energy to your advantage.
Aries (March 21-April 19)
This retrograde requires you to reevaluate everything you have learned about love from your family. "Perhaps you learned a toxic pattern or relationship habit from your parents and are ready to go," Ashe says. If you want to take a step back from romance now, that's okay. Don’t be afraid to focus on the other connections in your life—friends, family, etc.
Taurus (April 20-May 20)
Greedy intimacy is on the love menu, Taurus, so don't be afraid to experiment a little in the bedroom. "You're experiencing joy in new ways and directly asking for the things that make you feel really good," Ashe says. "That new position? That new underwear? Keep playing!" Remember, problem-solving doesn't always require a partner's involvement.
Gemini (May 21 to June 20)
Before you enjoy all the joys of love, turn inward. “Put yourself first again,” Ash said. If you're single, taking a deeper look at your priorities can redirect your love life in a direction that's more aligned with your values. If you're in a relationship, have honest conversations with your partner about what each other needs to grow.
Cancer (June 21 to July 22)
Cancer, remember to think before you act. Whether you're committing to someone new or cutting ties for good, Mercury retrograde in December urges you to "review the terms of your romantic relationship before signing on the dotted line," Ashe says. When it comes to matters of the heart, avoid hasty impulses and think critically before taking big action.
Leo (July 23-August 22)
Feeling frustrated, Leo? During Mercury retrograde in December, you may feel isolated—either misunderstood by your partner or irritated by the dating scene. "As you look to make changes in your love life in the new year, you may find yourself seeking spiritual guidance or therapeutic help to help unravel these mysteries," Ashe says. In the meantime, relieve tension by practicing vulnerability.
Virgo (August 23-September 22)
Virgo, your perspective on love is changing. "This transit is a great time for you to take a back seat in love and learn something from those around you. Being vulnerable and open gives you the opportunity to gain wisdom and clarity," says Ash. Now stay observant and you will gain an evolutionary perspective.
Libra (September 23-October 22)
Since you're so focused on work right now, romance may not be your top priority right now. While your career is important, balance is also key. “Just don’t forget to make time for the people [who support you] on your way to the top!” Ash said.
Scorpio (October 23rd - November 21st)
Mercury retrograde is a great opportunity to enjoy all kinds of love—romantic, platonic, and familial. Ash just reminds you of one thing: "If you plan on introducing your new partner to your friends over the holidays (and vice versa), it's important to be on your best behavior. It's easy to offend through poor communication and offhand comments , so it’s best to be vigilant and respectful.”
Sagittarius (November 22-December 21)
Mercury is currently transiting your sign of Sagittarius, which may bring up difficult emotions. Your instinct may be to avoid them. "For the first half of the month, Venus will occupy your subconscious realm and unseen desires, turning your attention to anything that can distract you," Ashe says. "When Venus enters your sign at the end of the month and Mercury goes direct in your sign on New Year's Day, you'll have the opportunity to open yourself up to romance."
Capricorn (December 22-January 19)
Feeling familiar, Capricorn? Mercury retrograde in December is testing your growth by rebuilding your past relationships. Try to avoid being seduced by your ex's behavior. "Mercury retrograde reveals people's true intentions, so pay attention to what you see," Ashe says. You may not like what you see.
Aquarius (January 20 to February 18)
This retrograde requires you to reevaluate your romantic efforts. Are they worth it? "You have been pouring your resources and talents into others instead of yourself, and this month reminds you that your jewelry is too precious to be given away to just anyone," Ash said.
Pisces (February 19-March 20)
Pisces, this Mercury retrograde proves how valuable it is to embrace yourself with love, especially when it comes to standing up for your boundaries. Pleasing others will not solve your problems with love. "Every now and then, you gotta mess up a little," Ash said. “You’ll focus on finding what’s best for you and seek out new places, new people, and new relationships that encourage you to embrace your truth.”
expert:
Lauren Ash, astrologer
