With the current popularity of the body positivity movement, women around the world have arguably learned to love and embrace their bodies in new ways. So it's absolutely no surprise that these girls get more freedom to admire their uneven, gorgeous midriffs with large navel piercings. You know, when we wear crop tops and are no longer afraid to show off who we are, we can add some sparkle.
After writing an article about plus size belly button piercings (something I had done as a 16-year-old teenager and have been loving and showing off ever since), I discovered that a lot of plus size women are interested in getting one, But it felt like they could never really finish it. Reasons that may not come as a surprise include not having a flat stomach, subsequently feeling embarrassed to show it, or not even believing it was their choice . It's amazing to see those things that we've closed ourselves off to as we get larger. Many of us automatically accept that something that emphasizes our bodies is "not right for us" because that's what society says, right?
Well, I'm here to tell you that a glittery belly button is for you. It’s time to throw away all preconceived notions of “fat people can’t do it” and embrace your body, your freedom, and your right to body jewelry. Really, there's no better way to show off that gorgeous tummy when you're wearing a crop top than with a beautiful piece of jewelry.
After reading my above article, plus size lady Marie J of Hole Look Piercings and Tattoos contacted me to share her knowledge and experience with plus size piercings. Mary, who works at a piercing shop in Alaska, noted in an email that she is "passionate about education on safe piercings, especially plus size piercings." She added, "'Even if I'm fat, can I get pierced?'" This is the first question [she] asks when fat girls walk into [her] store or online forums. "
I decided to ask Mary (who also happens to have documented her own experience with a plus-size belly button piercing) for some more advice on what to consider if you're considering purchasing one. Here are six things she recommends you consider.
1. Piercings are more about anatomy than body shape
According to Mary, people of all shapes and sizes come to the shop where she works to get their ears pierced. However, contrary to popular myth, whether a belly button piercing is right for you has nothing to do with weight. "What it comes down to is the anatomy of the area you're getting pierced, not a person's overall body type," she says.
For example, the type of belly button you have (external vs. internal) has far more to do with how easily you can be pierced than whether you have a distinct abdominal contour. "If it's something you want, go for it," Mary added. "Worst case scenario, you can't, but guess what: you still have the whole rest of your chubby body to work with!"
2. Your piercer should be able to tell you their experience level
Whenever you get a piercing, regardless of your size or anatomy, you should learn as much as possible about the logistics of your piercer. “First and foremost, find someone who will treat you with respect, answer all your questions, and take the time to make sure you’re comfortable,” Mary told me. For plus-size people who are reluctant to get pierced, it's important to find out if the piercer is body positive and comfortable working with all different types of bodies. "Ultimately, you have to ask if the store is clean and comfortable. If it's not, take your business elsewhere," Mary added.
3. Aftercare will be the same
If you're worried that a big belly will make post-operative care for your piercing more difficult or worse, don't do it. "Proper aftercare is one of the most important things you can do to keep your piercing happy and healthy," notes Marie. "Avoid scented body washes and lotions, and stick to non-antibacterial soaps (I personally like Dr. Bronner's Baby Soap). Your piercing shop may have a saline spray you can purchase, which is very convenient when you're out and about. But I recommend mixing your own salt solution and soaking your belly button for 5 to 10 minutes a day,” she adds. The importance of keeping up with aftercare is the same for everyone .
4. You may need to order custom jewelry
Belly Button Ring Emerald Swarovski Crystal Flower Pendant, $15, etsy.com
If the worst thing that can happen with a belly button piercing while plus size is having to buy new jewelry, then I think we're all good. "All piercings are anatomically based. You want to make sure your piercing is able to breathe and easy to clean. This can be especially tricky with a B/double tummy," Mary points out. "Look at the belly button itself: You want a nice, well-defined curve at the top of your belly button. Sometimes, the standard length just doesn't fit your anatomy. That doesn't mean you can't get it done, but you may have to order custom jewelry to fully achieve the aesthetic you’re looking for,” she adds. All in all, finding an excuse to buy a new ring isn't a bad thing.
5. This could be a really good experience
Because plus-size people are used to being marginalized, it's sometimes easy to fall into the trap that certain experiences are either unavailable to us or that certain experiences are inherently negative because of our size. However, Mary had her belly button pierced and had a great time. "Apart from the slight harassment (which is to be expected when your friend penetrates you), it was a smooth, fun experience," she said. "[My piercer] had me lie down, stand up, and sit down so she could take a few measurements beforehand to make sure we had the right jewelry." Although the ring she ended up with wasn't the same due to her anatomy. Not what she originally planned, but the end result is still a delight.
6. It’s inspiring for fat girls
Crystal Bow Belly Button Ring Jewelry, $14, etsy.com
Perhaps the most important consideration when deciding whether to get a plus-size belly piercing is the impact it will have on those around you. "Honestly, a belly button is not one of the piercings I would most like to have, but I want to inspire fat girls," Marie told me. When you allow marginalized institutions to do what all other institutions are allowed to do, you help increase visibility and acceptance. Mary wants to be able to say, "Hey, look! I'm fat, I have stretch marks, and I'm done! Look how cute it is." No doubt her choice will inspire many.
Photo: khaleesidelrey/Instagram (2); Courtesy of Mary J
