I don’t take my vibrator advice lightly. I knew that when I looked at vibrator reviews in the past, I was looking at a major investment. Today's luxury vibrators often cost over $100, and for obvious reasons, you can't return them. So it’s only after a year of consistent use and the trial of many other luxury clitoral vibrators that I feel I can recommend one sex toy as the best vibrator to use during penetrative intercourse: the LELO LILY 2 .
When I first received this vibrator for review over a year ago, I was very skeptical. LILY 2 costs $139 and comes in three scents - Lavender & Manuka Honey, Rose & Wisteria, and Bordeaux & Chocolate . I hated the idea of a scented vibrator and still do - vaginal smell is so humiliating and I worried it was an attempt to cover it up. Luckily, the scent is completely contained within the toy (so it won't mess with your pH!), and LELO says it won't mask your natural scent in any way; It simply acts as an aphrodisiac.
LELO Lily 2, $139, Amazon
In fact, I was pleased to find that the lavender scent of my light purple LILY 2 was barely noticeable and essentially disappeared within a year of use, while the power of the toy itself remained strong. While this scent doesn't have an aphrodisiac effect on me, LILY 2 itself certainly does. I was so pleasantly surprised by this toy – so much so that it has actually become my go-to vibrator for penetrative sex.
Small, quiet, sturdy, waterproof, and with eight stimulation settings, this toy is a wonderful clitoral vibrator. While its material is stiffer than other similar designs like the WeVibe Touch (which is a solid silver medalist, by the way), it feels great against your body and is easy to use in a variety of sex positions - from Woman On Top to Doggystyle, or even positions where you don't have a lot of wiggle room, like when you're lying on your back. This toy gives me sustained, intense orgasms almost every time and makes penetrative sex more fun for me.
We-Vibe Touch , $70, Amazon
It's really hard to find a toy that doesn't feel intrusive when used during sex, but this toy does just that. It's ergonomically designed to fit perfectly in your hand, rest on your pubic bone, and is easy to hold in multiple positions. The point at the tip is directional enough so it's very sturdy, but not so sharp that it easily ends up in the wrong spot with a lot of movement. Although I mainly use the LILY 2 during sex, I absolutely love it and even often find it to be very satisfying on its own, often even more so than my wand (which is quite an accomplishment).
Vibratex Magic Wand Massager , $45, Amazon
I really highly recommend this toy – if you want to incorporate a vibrator into your partner’s sex life, it won’t let you down. If you're not sure where to start, I recommend trying these seven sex positions with this toy.
1. The woman is on top
Personally, I like to sit in this position all the time - it gives me easier access to my clitoris, and I find that I prefer the angle of penetration. Either way, this will give your partner a great view and you a great ride. This is a choice for good reason.
2. Cross
This one is great for when you're all feeling lazy. This is an easy position with nothing getting in the way of your hands or clitoris. Just put your legs beside him, try to sit back, relax and enjoy.
3.Butterfly
This provides super deep penetration plus the really fun feeling of being picked up by your hips or butt. Assuming he can hold you up, your hands can easily access your clitoris with the LILY 2.
4. Buzzing doggy style
Only a woman on top is reliable to me. It's not difficult to support yourself with one arm, and in this position you can enjoy all the deep thrusts of clitoral stimulation. This is also a great option if you want to be comfortable using a toy during penetrative sex, since all your partner will see is your beautiful ass.
5. Spoon
This is another great position for when you're tired, and I love this position when I want missionary intimacy, as well as access to my clitoris. Your partner can hold you and you can hold LILY 2 without feeling like a third party.
6. Zhanying
Since I'm not disciplined enough to practice yoga regularly, I sometimes like to do some deep stretches during sex. This pose is perfect for this and you'll be so busy feeling great that you won't even notice you're stretching. Because it looks more complicated than it is, I'll let Bustle's sex columnist Vanessa Marin explain: "Start in missionary position, then have your partner sit up and pull your hips into a low bridge position. They can Squat upright, or rest one of your legs on either side of your partner's body so you can use a sex toy on your clitoris, or your partner can use one on you."
7. Improved doggy style
This is one of my favorite poses and one of the poses that made the biggest impression on me with LILY 2. Although this photo shows a woman on one arm, I actually like to lie completely flat on my stomach and hold the toy with one hand on my clitoris while my partner thrusts from behind. The LILY 2 Contour's perfect shape makes it work seamlessly, allowing you to enjoy the feeling of being pressed flat against the bed and penetrated deep. I especially recommend this if you like the feeling of being dominated.
If you tried LILY 2 and it didn't work for you, I sincerely apologize! But, like I said, I'm very picky and I feel like this toy is the only one I would confidently recommend to anyone trying to get more orgasms during penetrative sex. May the climax be with you!
Photo: LELO; Caroline Wurtzel/Hustle
