The first Sex and the City movie contained an incident that the HBO series had accumulated over its six seasons. Carrie Bradshaw (Sarah Jessica Parker) was finally getting to marry the love of her life, Mr. Big (Chris Noth)—until she did.
In typical big-name fashion, he pulled up to the church and decided to leave at the last minute, abandoning Carrie at the altar. He called her and said "I can't do this" and she left the church in embarrassment. As soon as she hung up the phone, he regretted his decision and told the driver to turn around - but it was too late.
After Bigger encounters her limo on the street, Carrie ambushes Bigger with a bridal bouquet, and a pregnant Charlotte (Kristin Davis) grabs her protectively and angrily Shouting “no” conveys what every viewer is feeling.
For any SATC fan who has witnessed the frequent ups and downs of Carrie and Big, this series of events is no surprise, especially his inability to commit. But some fans sided with him, claiming Carrie actually ruined her own wedding in the events that led to Big's sudden departure.
Of course, the 2008 film ends with Carrie and Big tying the knot in a town hall ceremony, with Carrie wearing the vintage suit she's wanted to wear from the beginning. But nearly 16 years later, fans are still debating who was to blame for the failure of their first planned wedding.
Why Carrie ruined her wedding
On Reddit, one user wrote about their "unpopular opinion" that Carrie ruined her wedding because she didn't finish her call with Big Shot and comfort him through his fears, which It was formed after a wedding turned into a bigger, more public event than expected.
When Carrie sees Big on the street, they continue to berate her for "attacking him with flowers" but instead advise her to "get in the limo, talk, turn around and get married" and think she should have checked out earlier that morning together with him.
"I know tradition dictates that the bride cannot be seen in her dress," they wrote. "But who wouldn't talk to their forever partner on their wedding day?"
Some Reddit users agreed with this argument. "I've always thought so," one user wrote, before noting that if "Carrie" had a more sober response (and probably a less funny movie), "SATC" would be a "completely different movie" movie of".
Why Carrie didn't crash her wedding
Naturally, many fans came to Carrie's defense, placing much of the blame for ruining the wedding on the big shot and arguing against every argument users made.
Regarding that phone call, one fan wrote: "What else is there to 'done' when the person says 'I just left'? 'I can't do this'?" It looks like my call is over. Plus, she was shocked. "
When it came to talking to Bigger before the ceremony, they argued: "You shouldn't be calling your fiancé on your wedding day to make sure he still wants to marry you."
Another user pointed out that Carrie's reaction was likely due to her disappointment after thinking Big had finally changed for her. "She knew deep down that he would never, I don't care what anyone says," they argued. "When it happened, just this time publicly, she was completely devastated."
In fact, some fans even said Carrie "shouldn't have married" Big after all. "It should be over. That's it," one person wrote. Most likely, they are Team Aidan.
