Traveling alone saved my relationship

"Where is your boyfriend?" I think I get asked this question every time I travel alone - even if it's my boyfriend's business trip and there's no reason to go. People criticized him for not being there for me when I didn't want him to be there . Traveling without my significant other (or anyone) was probably my number one source of personal growth, and it probably single-handedly saved my relationship as well. So why do people think that if your significant other isn't with you on every trip that there's something wrong?

I don't know if men with female partners experience the same problem, but I suspect it's at least a little different for them. When people ask me about my boyfriend's whereabouts they usually say something that reflects the following assumptions: a) I need him there to "protect" me, b) he needs to be there to make sure I don't get too close to anyone else, c) he's turning me off because women are clingy and want their significant others to be with them all the time, or d) there's no way I'm traveling across a foreign country alone. Please excuse me while I take a deep breath because my blood is boiling right now.

"There are still two people in a couple and it's okay for each person to go on their own journey and do some exploration on their own."

News Alert: The desire to travel without your significant other does not indicate any rift in your relationship. In fact, it's good for both you and your partner. "While many adventures, like travel, are undertaken as a couple, that's not always the case," says Holly, a practicing psychologist, Harvard lecturer, and author of If We're Together, Why Should I Be? ·Does Dr. Parker say you feel lonely? , told Busy. "There are still two people in a couple and it's acceptable for each person to go on their own journey and do some exploration on their own. A relationship is not meant to be tied down."

That’s why I don’t give up on traveling without a partner, apologize for it, or try to defend myself when people ask me this annoying question.

I go crazy without any alone time.

Everyone needs alone time. Constantly considering how others might respond to your decisions is exhausting. Personally, it doesn't work for me to be alone during the day until my boyfriend comes home at five or six in the evening. I need a few days to recharge and not think about anyone but myself. When I'm deprived of this, I feel exhausted, irritable, and resentful of the person who put me in this situation. Traveling alone is a great way to pass the time without relying on anyone.

When you're together all the time, you take each other for granted

It would be awesome if you could spend every day with your partner for two months and appreciate them as much as you did when you got back together after months apart. But most of us can't. I know I can't. When my partner and I lived in the same place for a few months, every little move he made would annoy me. But after a few days without him, I became patient again and fell completely in love with him. The unfortunate truth is that sometimes, you need to remember what life is like without someone in order to be as happy as you are with them.

Going somewhere with someone prevents you from meeting the person

One of my roommates was once surprised that I went to a concert alone. But in my opinion, if you go with people, you might be missing out on one of the best parts: meeting new people. Think about it: If you were looking for new friends, who would you be most likely to approach? Is it alone or someone already talking to someone else? Being alone forces you to meet people you wouldn't otherwise meet.

When you travel alone you can do whatever you want

I'm sure I'm not the only one who comes back from vacation feeling like they need a vacation. This is usually because I feel a lot of pressure to fit into other people's schedules, entertain them, make sure I'm not doing anything that bothers them, and push things that I don't actually want to do. Traveling alone is the best way to travel because you get to plan (or not plan) the trip yourself. You could spend your entire time in and out of museums, walking around aimlessly, stopping to eat anything that smells good, or sitting on the beach reading a book, and then decide at the last minute that you really want to go to a party . No one will be angry with you because your plans won't actually affect anyone else.

The point of traveling is to change your daily life

People put themselves in new places because they want to see a different side of themselves. If you travel with the same people every day, you risk restarting your daily routine somewhere else. Sometimes you need time away from everything to reflect on your life, expand your mind to new perspectives, and see things you're dealing with at home from a new perspective. The best way is to stay as far away from things at home as possible.

Don’t get me wrong: I love traveling with my partner. But did I really enjoy it as much as traveling alone? Not by a long lens. In fact, there is nothing I enjoy more than traveling alone. To release this other side of yourself, you need to let go of the life you're accustomed to. It's hard to find yourself when you're always around other people.